10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again

1. Coming to the door to pick someone up.

I think we’ve all had it with the incredibly unromantic “here” text, and meeting up always seems to be more casual and platonic than the alternative. Of course, meeting someone from online or any circumstance like that would probably be the exception to this rule, but generally: the 30 seconds it takes to get out of a car or cab and knock on the door makes a huge difference.

2. Trying to dress really nicely for a date.

“Nicely” means different things for different people, so I think it’s just a matter of putting effort into how you put yourself together to go out with someone. It’s not about wearing suits and petticoats again, but just realizing that, whether or not we like to accept it, appearance does count for something, and we should do our best to make sure that our appearance says something about us, in whatever way we’d like it to.

3. Bringing flowers or other tokens of affection to the first date.

Now, many lucky ladies (and some men) I know get this regularly, and in fact, I have myself as well, but only ever with people I’d been dating for a while. I think there’s something to be said for bringing flowers to the door on your first date. It’s become uncool because it’s forward and it’s a gesture that confirms their interest, but we should definitely get past that idea and worry more about how we’re going to let someone know we really do care and appreciate that they want to spend time with us.

4. Going dancing that’s not grinding on a grimy club floor.

Whatever happened to this? Dancing for the sake of dancing, like fun, not essentially sex on a dance floor dancing. What’s a better way to literally shake off nerves than seeing them bust a really dorky move on a dance floor? And the art of slow dancing has generally been lost, though I’ve been one to do it in my living room with my slightly coerced significant other, and I’ll tell you he’s said on numerous occasions it ended up being one of the most romantic nights we had together.

5. Straightforwardly asking someone out and not calling it “hanging out.”

Or, as is very popular these days, “talking.” “Oh, we’re just… talking.” As in, seeing one another and speaking frequently as to get to know each other? So… dating? We’ve found these really convenient ways to skirt around the issue of having to put our hearts on the line, but honestly, it just ends up being messy and confusing for all parties involved. There’s no need to go back to the idea of courting or anything, unless you want to, but simply being direct about whether or not you’d like to go on a date with someone is a truly lost art, one that really shouldn’t be.

6. Additionally, being clear about when you’re “going steady.”

Oh, the awkward, “so… are we… you know… what are we?” talk. Classic. We should go back to asking one another if the other person would like to “go steady” or something. There’s something about asking them if they’d like to rather than assuming that you are or aren’t anything that’s just very cute, in my opinion.

7. Romantic gestures like writing poems.

Writing poems may not be for you, I know mine would look something like “Roses are red, violets are blue, I hate poetry but I love you.” I literally just made that up thank you please quote me when you inevitably post that gem on Tumblr. But seriously, like a handwritten letter in the mail or just surprising them with something you made even if it looks like the macaroni necklace you made when you were 5 is cute just because you tried and were thinking of them.

8. Turning electronics off and just being with one another.

I’m not sure there is anything worse than the person who picks up their phone and starts staring at it in the middle of dinner, or at any point while you’re together and having a conversation. I’m not anti-technology here (hello, I work for the Internet) but I am saying that there comes a time to turn it off and disconnect and remember what actually matters. People.

9. The general concept of asking permission for things.

It used to be principle for people to say: oh, when can I see you? Or, when could I call you? Rather than just assuming they can at any point. But I think that old concept could be applied to our modern world by just assuming that, unless told otherwise, you should ask permission to you know, touch them anywhere, take them out, call them at a certain time, etc. Once you’re in a relationship these things usually don’t require asking anymore, but some do, especially when it comes to sexuality. I once knew a person who said that they asked permission before so much as touching a girl’s thigh, and that always stuck with me.

10. Not assuming sex is to be had at any point in time.

Now, I’m certainly not saying it should go back to being a taboo that’s unspoken of, but we certainly shouldn’t expect it from someone on the third date, on the first date, because they’re being flirty, because you know they’re into you, or even because they agreed to go out with you. A date does not have to be a precursor to sex, and you shouldn’t be disappointed if it isn’t because you should never assume that it will be. It depends on the person you’re with and what they want to do.

(C) KATE BAILEY

 

Date a Girl or Guy Who Invests!

Valentines Day, For all lovers and couples, this is the best time to show the love and affection for your partner. Time to go on date and to celebrate love! Love is truly in the air today as restaurants, hotels and scenic spots will be filled with love birds!

Valentines gifts need not be expensive. Try to leave a Valentines note at her office desk. Ask a colleague to do this for you. This should be the first thing in the morning that she will see. It will surely brighten her day. If you have the budget, couple it with flowers or chocolates.

Another Valentines present where you can show your sweet spot is to make a customized video compiling all the most memorable pictures with her. Couple it with a love song on the background as you reminisce each of the moments you’ve shared together! Do this while having a date with her. She will truly appreciate and will love you more.

I recently saw two well-written articles on Valentines Day about dating a girl or guy who invests! For all searchees out there including yours truly, these two articles will truly inspire you! Happy Valentines Day! Spread the love! Make everyday your Valentines Day! 

Date a Girl Who Invests in the Stock Market

Date a girl who would rather buy shares of stock than the latest gadgets and apparel. When you take her out on dates, she might wear the same clothes over and over again, but learn not to mind it. Because beyond her very limited wardrobe is a well-diversified portfolio of blue-chip companies.

Date a girl who is financially literate because she doesn’t need you to date her. She knows that men are like stocks – there are so many options to choose from. So when she says yes to a date, it means she sees something in you. You’ll never have doubts with a girl who invests in the stock market because she’s already wealthy (or soon to be wealthy). You’re sure she won’t be interested in you for your money. She’ll love you not for what you have, but for who you really are.

Date a girl who understands the time value of money. She understands that the time you’ll spend together is the most important thing in your relationship. She won’t ask for expensive gifts and gestures, because she knows that these things will depreciate in value in the future. She’ll be happy to stay at home with you and watch DVDs, rather than go to the movies. She knows all too well that the value of spending P1,000 a month on “monthsaries” for 20 years is more than P1 Million. She’d rather spend her time with you at home, so she can invest her money on your dream home.

Date a girl who does peso-cost averaging. She’ll stick with you until the end, no matter what happens. She’ll wait for you even if you don’t know where the relationship is going. She’ll be committed to you even if your life goes in a downward direction because she knows that’s the greatest opportunity for your relationship to grow. She’ll stay by your side in good times and in bad, because she believes in who you are and who you can be.

You’ll continually be inspired by a girl who does peso-cost averaging. She’s full of hopes and dreams, even if the past has been cruel to her. When life gives her an obstacle, she’ll never give up. In fact, she’ll be happier; she has learned very early on that challenges are merely opportunities that make us better people. She knows that the bigger the obstacle, the bigger the reward.

Date a girl who trades in the stock market. She’ll be prepared for anything that could happen. Can’t make it on a date? She’ll understand. Want to suddenly go to a party? She’ll be there in 5 minutes. Sudden change of plans will never anger her – that’s because she knows what to do in case things don’t go as planned.

It’s easy to date a girl who trades in the stock market. You’ll be able to argue with her using logic. And even if you win, she won’t get angry. She’ll swallow her pride and accept the loss. That’s because she knows your relationship is far more important.

A girl who invests in the stock market will be the rarest girl you’ll meet here in the country. So when you find her: love her and never let her go. Invest your time understanding her. Invest your money creating beautiful memories with her. Follow this advice, and your life will better forever.

Date a Guy Who Invests

Date a guy who has a passion for investing; a guy with goals, targets and a direction in life. He’s a decision maker, he knows what he wants in life and if he wants you, he wants you for good.

Date a guy who appreciates the value of money. He won’t always have the latest gadgets nor constantly treat you in a fancy restaurant, but he dreams of bigger things for the both of you. He plans to give you your dream home where you and your future family will be more than comfortable. When he sees you having a hard time walking when you’re in your heels or gets frustrated going to a certain place especially during rainy nights, he’ll save and invest for a car for the both of you.

He might not be very good with fashion, but he will be more than happy to take advice from you as long as the price of clothes is within the budget. He knows that the finer things in life need money and he wants to give them to you. He’ll be busy making money grow instead of flirting with other girls.

Date a guy who invests in the long term. He understands the bigger picture of your relationship. He knows that there may be bad times, but in the long run you’ll still be happy together. He will trust and love you and won’t be affected much by jealousy.

Date a guy who observes the current inflation rate. He cares about what’s happening in the market, a concerned citizen, a patriot if you may. If you want to start a business or a new idea, you can talk to him about it. He enjoys mature topics. Oh, he’ll definitely get along well with your parents.

Date a guy who invests in the stock market. He’s exciting and interesting. He enjoys thrills and won’t bore you. At the same time, he’s prepared during a calamity. He’ll be able to cope and think of the next step to do instead of just waiting. He’s flexible because he knows things don’t always go as planned. It may not look like it, but he’s not hard to please. He appreciates the little things and takes joy in them because he knows that they build up to something great.

Don’t be afraid to voice your opinions to him, he values them greatly and takes them into consideration. He’s very understanding and patient which he acquired from his experience in investing. At times that you come late on your dates, he won’t be mad at you. If the both of you were supposed to go out this weekend but you’re suddenly unavailable, he’ll understand, with the right reasons, of course.

A guy who invests is a rare breed. If you see one, capture his heart and see him invest in you and make your love grow more than double. Now that’s a good ROI (Return of Investment)!